Here's a portion of an article I've read by Nancy Wilson about working things out and thinking through Biblical principles for quidance:
Home Run
Nancy Wilson, Volume 8, Issue 3: Femina
"What if I wrote a column about the spiritual value of scrubbing your floors twice a day and all the health benefits for your family associated with the practice? And suppose it was all backed up with verses in Leviticus? What if I then went on to point out that such hard work, commitment, dedication, and sacrifice would reap for you great satisfaction here and a reward in heaven? And suppose further I followed it up with testimonies from women whose families were changed as a result of the practice? I hope you would think I was out to lunch. But unfortunately, some women would probably either begin to implement my suggestions, or begin to feel guilty because they hadn't.
Today there is no lack of innocent-looking Christian books with friendly titles making the rounds among Christian women which go far, far beyond my floor scrubbing example. They set down absolute rules for Christian households on everything -- infant feeding, potty training, television ownership, homeschooling, or hand-washing -- as though they had a verse from the Bible for each petty regulation. I am amazed and saddened at how many Christian women quickly adopt these methods and believe they are doing their Christian duty when they make a chore list and post it on the fridge. Did God actually say in His Word that this is the Christian way?Why is it so many Christian women want a list of rules, a set of directions, for every aspect of their lives? And if they find a set of "holy rules" in a sweet-looking Christian book, they adopt it as though it were Scripture itself, even if it says we shouldn't drink pop, or that we should begin potty training our children at birth. What is it in us that wants such detailed rules, and what is it that prompts us to adopt them?
The desire for authoritative rules springs from two sources. First, it comes from a desire to please, a desire not to mess up. Many women want to color within the lines, they want to be "good Christians," and they want to please God, but they don't want to figure this out by thinking through biblical principles. They just want someone to hand them a list of rules. There is a false sense of security in adopting a method -- "so and so's childrearing method." If it worked for them, it will work for you. When you go to bed at night you can feel good about your Christian life.
The "system" can become a source of security. "I am doing fine with God because today I cut sugar out of the kid's diet, I'm breastfeeding on a schedule, and I'm having my next baby with a midwife at home." Approached this way, this is false comfort and is dangerous. Not only is it self-righteousness, works-righteousness, but if this really is God's way, then everyone else who isn't doing it this way is not pleasing God. In fact, they are in sin. This then leads to a feeling of superiority over those saints who do not adopt the "method."
Works-righteousness, a sense of spiritual security based upon my lifestyle, undercuts justification by faith. Jesus Christ is the only One who ultimately works. His work is perfect; His work is finished. Our salvation is based totally upon His work, and not upon any work of mine, no matter how righteous I may believe my work to be. My work may make my life more pleasant (or painful), but it will not save me, or make me any more secure before God. Christ's work alone is our only true security . . ."
You can read the entire article at Credenda Agenda.
Thinking through Biblical principles to find how to bring my life in line with what it says about the everyday things is more difficult than just being told what to do. It's easier and more comfortable to take a list and check it off
without thinking but this can have two results. One result can be confusion from depending on these things for salvation, which becomes a substitute for God. A second result can be stagnation or weakening of my faith in Christ--becoming unable to cope with making decisions as is my personal responsibility before God; developing a dependence on humans for ulitmate truth instead of Christ. Salvation and the day-to-day doing of Biblical principles are inter-related but two distinct things at the same time. I need to trust only Christ and His work, both His obedience to the law and on the cross, for my salvation, he is my security. I don't want to confuse the application of Biblical principles for salvation. I also don't want to do what weakens my trust and faith in Christ's work for my salvation but my sinful heart deep down really loves to do that. It's easy for me to set up an idol to replace God and provide my own "works salvation" . . . my sinful heart loves that stuff so I always need reminded of the difference.
As far as bringing my life in line with Scripture, it's freeing to
know I don't need man's approval or confirmation. Encouragement, prayer, correction, suggestions, advice, yes, but not ultimate truth, not ulitmate responsibility or ultimate approval from others. My convictions and application of Bible principles may be different than another person's so I don't need or expect the exact, same results in another person's life. God may convict and lead another person with the same principle but with a different application. The bottom line is bringing
my life in line with Scripture and His leading while trusting and letting Him work in another person's life with the same principle but with a different application. I can't be the Holy Spirit in another person's life and I can't expect the Holy Spirit to always work the same way in other people's lives. Some times it may work out that way but not always.
I've found there's nothing wrong with "lists". I love lists, I use lists, I function better with lists. They're a guide to show me what is the right direction &/or wrong direction, they're the railroad tracks or streets for keeping me in the right direction, they even show me about the "Designer" of the "right direction" but they are not salvation. For salvation, my trust is only in Christ and His work of obedience and on the cross. Only with stirring up my mind-heart with the Biblical principles and being aided by the help of the Holy Spirit increases and develops discernment. This is Biblical self-training, Biblical self-discipline always in the context of being taught ultimately by God and Christ, by the Scripture and aided by the Holy Spirit, then also through the means of fellow Christians whether that is family, pastors, elders, or brothers-sisters in Christ.
Paul prayed for the Philippians and asked the Lord to increase their
knowledge and depth of insight so that they would be able to discern what was best in daily situations. When they had decisions to make about how to bring their lives in line with the great principles of Scripture God did not always give exhaustive, complete divine revelation nor did He give pastors or elders, or even Paul himself, the ultimate responsibility to order every detail, every circumstance, every situation, with a specific, clear, black/white solution. They were expected to
LEARN to discern what was best in situations where there may not have been specific instruction. They were expected to be subject first of all to God, the Lord, and His Word, to "grow up" and "mature" -- to need solid food. Immaturity needs or demands exhaustive, detailed solutions out of fear of man's opinion or approval. Immaturity needs or demands confirmation from everyone being convicted and doing exactly alike with the same Biblical principle.
May my weak, feeble, sinful mind-heart learn to discern and think and love God, to grow and mature, by God's grace and mercy.
"And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in
knowledge and depth of insight (discernment), so that
you may be able to discern what is best (excellent) and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God." Philippians 1:9-11
"But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use
have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil." Hebrews 5:14
"God has redeemed his people from the curse of the law and not from the command of it; he has saved them from the wrath of God, but not from his government." -A. W. Pink